Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships

Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships

Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, MD, FACS, is an Associate Clinical Professor of Urology at Harvard Medical School and the founder of Men’s Health Boston, a treatment center for male sexual and reproductive disorders. He is the author of three previous books and his work has appeared in the New England Journal of Medicine, The New Yorker and the WSJ among others. He researches, lectures internationally, and sees a limited number of patients via his new program, Personalized MensHealth.

 

“A must-read for both sexes!”
—Suzanne Somers

Harvard Professor Abraham Morgentaler, MD, offers a rare view into the secret world of his patients, providing a startling new perspective on men, sex, and relationships

What really drives men to do what they do? Why Men Fake It uses the real-life stories of Dr. Morgentaler’s patients to let us in on the secrets of men and to examine the current state of male sexuality in science and medicine as well as in relationships and popular culture.  In this frank and open discussion of the subject, Dr. Morgentaler will make men and women alike question what we think we know about gender, motivation, sexuality, relationships,  and, ultimately, the definition of a “man.” 

From the biology and science behind the “Bionic Penis,” to the psychology behind men faking orgasms, Why Men Fake It will change the conversation about male sexual health, and will introduce the world to sex and relationships from a new point of view.  Dr. Morgentaler’s exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex-  a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media—to give us the definitive guide to men, as we’ve never seen them before.  From these stories you will gain a surprising perspective on the minds and motivations of men: committed, caring, loving and sometimes clumsy individuals doing their best to be great partners in their relationships.

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Part 1
Do Men Really Fake It?

1. Introduction

After almost twenty-five years of medical practice specializing in the treatment of men with sexual and reproductive problems, I thought I had heard and seen pretty much everything. But when David, a twenty-five-year-old man, walked into my office and told me that he faked orgasms with the new love of his life, Sarah, I had to make sure I’d heard him correctly. What a fantastic twist! Once I got past the immediate, practical question of how David faked it, what really interested me was why a man would do this. David’s answer was simple and touching. He was in love with Sarah and was simply trying to do what he believed was the right thing by her. That is a refrain I hear regularly from men in one form or another, yet this admirable, loving aspect of male sexuality is hidden among the detritus that passes as wisdom for what men are all about.

This book is about the fascinating, rich, nuanced, and surprising world of men and sexuality. In these pages I share the stories of David and so many other men who have come through my offices at Men’s Health Boston, seeking help for one type of “guy problem” or another. Behind those closed doors, men from all walks of life—laborers and celebrities, professors and new immigrants—have shared with me the most intimate details of their lives. Often I have been the first and only person brought into their confidence. I share these stories and my perspectives here because I have come to believe that what we think we know about men, sex, and relationships is totally incorrect. The truth is, we know next to nothing.

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Praise for Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships

“Dr. Morgentaler has done it again! In Why Men Fake It, the courageous Harvard professor takes the reader into the privacy of the examining room to learn about the taboo topic of male sexuality. A must-read for both sexes!”
—Suzanne Somers,
Lecturer and New York Times Bestselling author of 24 books
“A pioneer in the fields of men’s sexual health and low testosterone, Abe Morgentaler, MD, here takes the reader beyond the macho male image. Why Men Fake It pairs patient and partner stories, and explains the relevant history and science of sexual medicine to provide a book that is both important and fun to read.”
—Irwin Goldstein, MD,
Director of Sexual Medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego and Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine
“A courageous and revealing exploration of male sexuality in the 21st century. Men who read this book will understand themselves better with every page. By focusing like a laser beam on male issues that others have lacked the creativity and compassion to address, Abe Morgentaler, MD, proves that he deserves the mantle of “America’s Top Doctor for Men.” Why Men Fake It is a must-read for men and the women who care about them.”
—Keith Ablow, MD,
New York Times Bestselling Author and Fox News “Medical A Team” Member
“Why Men Fake It answers questions about sex and relationships that beg to be asked but seldom are. Dr. Morgentaler’s sensitive, empowering manner and his unique perspective on the male psyche in the early 21st century makes this a must-read for all men and women.”
—Alan Altman, MD,
Past President, International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health
“An engaging, provocative, and fun book that moved me and also made me laugh. I will never think about men, sex, and relationships the same way again.”
—Sanjiv Chopra, MD,
Professor of Medicine, Harvard Medical School, and author of Live Better, Live Longer
“Dr Morgentaler takes us on a compelling journey into the minds of men and how they really feel about sex, love and relationships. A great read for women who want to understand their lover’s struggles and secret desires in the bedroom and beyond.”
—Laura Berman, LCSW, PhD
author of Loving Sex: The Book of Joy and Passion
“Many novels and news stories describe “hyper-sexed” men who care only about the pleasure sex gives to them, while others address the latest treatments for male sexual problems. But most men fit neither description. Most men can have sex, and have concerns about how well they satisfy their partners. For such men-and there are many of them-this book from a physician expert in men’s sexual function has much valuable information. Clearly written, with compelling personal stories that make the material come alive.”
—Anthony Komaroff, MD,
Professor of Medicine, Harvard Medical School
“Dr. Morgentaler, a distinguished Harvard urologist, takes us into his consulting room and exposes the deep struggles and concerns that men have regarding their sexuality. Using humor and sensitivity he reveals the interwoven physical and psychological concerns that are part and parcel of male sexual identity. Why Men Fake It is a brave, bold, and extremely well written book that teaches us about the complexity of the mind of man.”
—Stanley E. Althof, Ph.D.,
Executive Director, Center for Marital and Sexual Health of South Florida, Emeritus Professor, Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine

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Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships
Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships  Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships  Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships  Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships  Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships

Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships
Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships  Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships  Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex by Dr. Abraham Morgentaler author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships author of Testosterone for Life: Recharge Your Vitality, Sex Drive, Muscle Mass, and Overall Health and The Viagra Myth: The Surprising Impact On Love And Relationships