Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, MD, FACS, is an Associate Clinical Professor of Urology at Harvard Medical School and the founder of Men’s Health Boston, a treatment center for male sexual and reproductive disorders. He is the author of three previous books and his work has appeared in the New England Journal of Medicine, The New Yorker and the WSJ among others. He researches, lectures internationally, and sees a limited number of patients via his new program, Personalized MensHealth.
“A must-read for both sexes!”
Harvard Professor Abraham Morgentaler, MD, offers a rare view into the secret world of his patients, providing a startling new perspective on men, sex, and relationships
What really drives men to do what they do? Why Men Fake It uses the real-life stories of Dr. Morgentaler’s patients to let us in on the secrets of men and to examine the current state of male sexuality in science and medicine as well as in relationships and popular culture. In this frank and open discussion of the subject, Dr. Morgentaler will make men and women alike question what we think we know about gender, motivation, sexuality, relationships, and, ultimately, the definition of a “man.”
From the biology and science behind the “Bionic Penis,” to the psychology behind men faking orgasms, Why Men Fake It will change the conversation about male sexual health, and will introduce the world to sex and relationships from a new point of view. Dr. Morgentaler’s exploration of male sexuality, from the Masters and Johnson era through the introduction of Viagra, Feminism and the internet, provides the basis for his provocative and revolutionary ideas regarding men and sex- a topic that, until now, has been either sensationalized or stereotyped by the media—to give us the definitive guide to men, as we’ve never seen them before. From these stories you will gain a surprising perspective on the minds and motivations of men: committed, caring, loving and sometimes clumsy individuals doing their best to be great partners in their relationships.
Do Men Really Fake It?
After almost twenty-five years of medical practice specializing in the treatment of men with sexual and reproductive problems, I thought I had heard and seen pretty much everything. But when David, a twenty-five-year-old man, walked into my office and told me that he faked orgasms with the new love of his life, Sarah, I had to make sure I’d heard him correctly. What a fantastic twist! Once I got past the immediate, practical question of how David faked it, what really interested me was why a man would do this. David’s answer was simple and touching. He was in love with Sarah and was simply trying to do what he believed was the right thing by her. That is a refrain I hear regularly from men in one form or another, yet this admirable, loving aspect of male sexuality is hidden among the detritus that passes as wisdom for what men are all about.
This book is about the fascinating, rich, nuanced, and surprising world of men and sexuality. In these pages I share the stories of David and so many other men who have come through my offices at Men’s Health Boston, seeking help for one type of “guy problem” or another. Behind those closed doors, men from all walks of life—laborers and celebrities, professors and new immigrants—have shared with me the most intimate details of their lives. Often I have been the first and only person brought into their confidence. I share these stories and my perspectives here because I have come to believe that what we think we know about men, sex, and relationships is totally incorrect. The truth is, we know next to nothing.